Philosophy, and therefore psychology, has two theories. We have all heard the nature vs. nurture argument. From a philosophers point of view some would say we are born Tabula Rasa and then learn our traits as products of our environment. Tabula Rasa means clean slate for those of you that have not read Aristotle or Aquinas. Go read it if you haven’t!
If someone told you right now that you could have Tabula Rasa and wipe your entire slate clean and then create the life of your choosing – what would you choose?
Now really think about this one. Most of us are programmed to choose based upon what we “should” want or what we “think we can get.”
The ego is a tricky thing. I like to call the ego a well-meaning but idiotic child. It is always there, in and each and every one of us designed to make life a learning experience.
If we had no ego we would all be in a state of Nirvana – everlasting joy and peace. However, we have this ego and it is designed to give us a purpose.
Imagine playing a baseball game in which someone told you before each game that you were going to win. You would start to lose the joy for the game right? Isn’t the triumph in winning, knowing that it is a risk and you might lose?
Triumph over ego and you win everything.
So here we have this idea that if you can get to nothing, Tabula Rasa, then you can have everything. But your ego wants to stop you.
The ego is what makes us never change and grow because where we are, even if painful, is comfortable. It is safe. Safety is the ego’s friend where risk makes the ego nervous because it can lose.
The ego makes us settle for less. It is easier.
The ego makes us give up on what we want.
The ego makes us hurt others.
The ego makes us lose hope.
The ego makes us insecure.
The ego makes us arrogant.
The ego makes us stay in a state of denial, lying to others and ourselves.
In short – the ego protects us from pain..but keeps us from true happiness.
But what if someone came to you and told you that there is a way to get to “nothing,” triumph over your ego, create the life you want to live and have a freaking fantabulous time while you are here…
If someone told you that – then how would you choose your life? Picture it in your head. Picture exactly what you want. Don’t hold back because you think you can’t have it, or can see no plausible way to get it.
So…the only question you need to ask yourselves is this:
If you take away your ego and knew for sure you could get it – what do you really really realty want?
I am curious to know but in an effort to make us all as honest as possible, please comment anonymously.